Archive for ‘Real Life’

December 31, 2009

Update

Oh blog.  How I have sadly neglected you.  Why does this always happen?  As soon as I get a break, I blog a whole lot less.  Must be those procrastinating skills are work where I suddenly feel an urge to blog right before an upcoming exam *looks innocent*  I guess to be fair I have been rather busy doing absolutely nothing.  I read a lot, watched a ton of movies, shopped a bit, finally caved and joined twitter (@poeticrealist if anyone wants to follow), and went skiing. :D Yes, I one who is always cold, went on a mountain and skied.  It was both somewhat terrifying and totally awesome.  Something I would most definitely care to repeat.  But other than that, I really honestly have done nothing.  Perhaps wallowed a little over my grades and then realizes how much shorter my break is this year.  Anyway, I’ll be back with a better update soon seeing as I am tired from more skiing today actually.

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December 4, 2009

Amanda Knox Verdict

Despite any thoughts of guilt or innocence, I feel quite bad for Amanda Knox and her family and friends.  It is a heavy sentence for a young girl to be found guilty of all counts for murder.  This young woman will now be spending a long 26years in prison.  I hope she has the fortitude to bear out this hardship.

October 3, 2009

Growth

I think something in us all craves the approval of our parents.  We don’t overtly or obviously tailor our actions to parental approval, but we would rather deal with the consequences ourselves than risk garnering their disapproval.  They took care of us, were our first teachers, nursed us through our teenage years of wild hormones and broken hearts, and taught us to think for ourselves.  So where does it stop?  When do they begin to see us as people as opposed to their daughter or son?  Some of us do the exact opposite of what they wish for us; deliberating carving out a path as far away as possible in efforts to cling onto a sense of independence.  Others follow their parents’ wishes to the letter.  The rest stand somewhere in the middle and maintain a balance between independence and parental input.  I have no idea where I stand.  My relationship with my parents is neutral at best and tense at worse.  They love me; they will always love me.  But loving me does not entitle them to dictating how my life should be run.  Everything around me is rapidly changing constantly; the world as I know it may be different day-to-day.  And yet, as more of the things change around me, the more my parents strive to keep me the same.

They cannot coddle me forever; their attempt to place me in a bubble will eventually do more harm than good. I cannot hope to survive in a world beyond the bubble if my world view is shaped only by that bubble.  If they do not have the confidence in my capabilities then how I can have faith in myself?  Daughters are not as breakable as everyone seems to think they are.  Just as sons are not nearly as irreproachable or infallible as we believe them to be.  We are all merely human.  And being human, it is acceptable to be selfish.  It ensures survival among all the mistakes and stumblings that occur.  Parents are also human; they want what’s “best” for us.  However, their perception of what’s best isn’t necessarily the actuality of what’s best for us.  It is their job to guide us, but they need to allow for growth.  I cannot grow encased in a bubble.  Sooner or later I will outgrow those trappings.  I don’t claim to know the answer as to how my live my life, but I need to discover that for myself.  And if I do things that they disapprove of, well…”we don’t always do the things our parents want us to do, but it is their mistake if they can’t find a way to love us anyway” (Sullivan).

~T

Sullivan, J. Courtney. Commencement. New York: Random House 2009.

October 2, 2009

Newbie on the block

Hey wordpress peoples,

I’m very new to this. I’ve been blogging since last February using blogger and have decided to switch to wordpress. But with all the many crazy options, it’s overloading my brain. hahahahah So this blog will stay a work in progress for the time being.

October 1, 2009

News

Well I’ve just had my first day of my sophomore year in college. And I had forgotten just how crowded my university got in the first week.   Too bad it’s freezing.  This is not fall weather; we just basically skipped to winter weather.  It’s like how we skipped from winter to summer weather.  Very strange.  And kinda irritating.  Not much to report on the class front since it’s only been a day (aka the usual syllabus/grading/awkward meeting) although I feel like I’m already falling behind in physics.  Oh academia.  Why did I want school to start?  hahah oh right.  I hate doing nothing and at least this is something.  Not to mention catching up is fairly nice since we’ve all been gone over the summer.   I’m looking forward to next week where it’s the first full week of classes (yay! gospel choir).

September 18, 2009

Portraits (2009, Marie Bui Photography)

So I just dyed my hair again after like 3 years. My cousin (maybe 2nd cousin? I have no idea. My family’s just waaaay too complicated to figure out. Let’s just say cousin) , a professional photographer, was kind enough to take my pictures. :D Here’s an update:

September 16, 2009

Vacation from Hell

Well. Posting will be very sporadic because I’m in Houston and being attacked by bugs. Not to mention my dell broke down on Friday. So it survived the flight only to like die the next evening for no good reason. >:0 I’m super annoyed and have to backtrack soooooo many days, especially since Fashion Week is going on. *sigh* I’m having all sorts of issues and I’m gonna whine about it. It’s my blog; I can whine if I want to :P

September 2, 2009

On the Verge of Fall

How is that even as I’m enjoying one season, I always wish for the next one to come along? What a fickle nature I have. :P Even though I have practically an entire month left of vacation, most of my friends who live in the semester system are already back at college. The call of fall is here once again as people begin moving in and all the fall lines are finally available in stores. Soon I have to transition from loose tanks, ripped shorts, and gladiators to fall gear. Which means more boots. :D Not only does my wardrobe go through an overhaul, so does my skin care regimen. It’s really important as your skin isn’t the same year round. Things you use in winter don’t work in summer and vice versa. The weather plus the natural cycles your skin goes through mean changing your routine in fall. Your twenties is the time to prevent premature aging and damage that will still with you. And I take it seriously. As should others if they want to age gracefully.

  1. Moisturizer: If you use a light moisturizer in summer, switch to a heavier one come fall. Find the one you use, and then use the moisturizer a step up from it for fall and winter: moisturizing serum–>light moisturizer –> heavy moisturizer –>moisturizing cream
  2. SPF: ALWAYS use SPF of at least 15. I don’t care if it’s cloudy and you can’t see any sun. Still put it on. Damage from clouds is actually worse. Not to mention, just because you can’t see the UV rays doesn’t mean they aren’t there.
  3. Cleanser: Switch from oil controlling cleansers to more mild cleansers. Fall/winter weather is really drying on the skin. Add an oil controlling cleanser to it and your skin will be really parched. You want your skin hydrated and soft.
  4. Exfoliates: In the colder months there’s a lot of dead skin cells build up on your skin. Use a gentle exfoliator with beads/alpha-hydroxy acids/fruit enzymes to clear it all up. Use it weekly. A clay mask is not remiss either. Just gently scrub it off with a sea sponge.
  5. Final tip: remember to extend all things done on your face to your neck and chest. Those areas are frequently damaged because they are constantly neglected. Not to mention nothing shos aging like one’s neck. Also, as much as it’s really tempting once the cold weather picks up, avoid hot showers unless you moisterize really well afterwards. They totally dry you out.

Now onto the wardrobe. What fashionist doesn’t love fall? There is a reason why the September issues are the heaviest; not only that, September means FASHION WEEK. September not only means the start of school, but the start of the fashion calendar as well. There’s just something new and refreshing about fall as the leaves are dying around us. Funny how it’s usually the season of fresh starts when nature-wise, it’s the season where everything starts dying. So what’s up for your fall line up? Mine:

  1. BOOTS: I buy like a new pair of boots every season. hahaha While I don’t exactly recommend that if you’re on a budget, there are certain boots every girl must have. One pair of classes stiletto black boots, flat boots in whatever color one wants (they can be riding boots, motorcycle boots, or just plain ol’ flatline boots), and a pair of ankle booties or ankle boots.
  2. Leggings: They’ve totally replaced tights. Not only are they quite flattering, they’re totally acceptable to wear with a tunic or short skirt. And one can take all the shorts worn in summer and pair them with leggings for the cooler weather. All those miniskirts and cute dresses worn in warmer weather can easily be transitioned by adding leggings and a jacket.
  3. Jackets: a good peacoat will not be amiss this fall. They’re warm enough and flattering on the figure. As opposed those puffy jackets that seem to leave feathers everywhere : / I’m a major fan of military jackets right now–probably because of the buttons hahaha Find something classic but with a twist. Just some little detail where you can make it your own.
  4. Scarves: I love soft cashmere scarves. I have them in cream (with pretty beading on the ends), heather grey, teal, and royal purple. I’m such a sucker for soft comfy things that are also quite flattering in the process. You can also wear them in many different ways and add a little something extra to one’s outfit. Of course they also keep you warm! (hahah see a theme here? I’m ALWAYS cold so thus I find ways to circumnavigate without looking like a marshmellow)
  5. Cardigan: Oh the boyfriend cardigan. I spent so much time searching for a nice investment cardigan. I found mine at club monaco. It’s soooooo comfy. And the tailoring and cut is most excellent. It flatters my figure and is made out of great material (merino wool and cashmere). It’s very warm despite how thin it is.
  6. Blazer: Structured, tailored, flattering, and certainly a staple. There are numerous uses for a blazer. Pair it with jeans (perhaps ripped) and a white tank for a night out on the town or pair it with an A-line skirt and stilettos for a job interview.

But don’t take my word for it. Go out and compile you’re own lists.

September 1, 2009

Facebook, Twitter Revolutionizing How Parents Stalk Their College-Aged Kids

Courtesy of The Onion. So freaky and yet so true. o.0

Facebook, Twitter Revolutionizing How Parents Stalk Their College-Aged Kids

August 28, 2009

Personal Philosophies

As of late, the saying “better to get forgiveness than permission” has been resonating with me. Everything I do and every decision I make; it all comes back to that idea. I am at the age where nothing I do is met with approval and all the things I deem important are met with disdain and the distinct tinge of prejudice that is ageism. The concept of ageism is generally seen as bias against the old; however, it works both ways. It is in fact discrimination based on age whether that means because they are too young or too old. I am on the cusp of my teen years and am besieged with questions about my future. I love how I am expected to make the “right” decisions about it and yet seem too foolish to make even the simplest of decisions such as who I am friends with and what time I can hang out. Conflicts between staying true to myself and what my parents want of me are practically a daily ritual.

However, I am also at the age where I am young enough to want the world and too young to realize the improbability of it all. And that is precisely where greatness can be found. At this point in time, I have nothing to offer. No semblance of stability or certainty. Except perhaps a fine gloss of independence. I am getting to where I want to be and could probably offer someone a dose of idealism. Other than that, I can’t really offer anything of substance until I get “there.” That “there” is anyone’s guess at this point. While that doesn’t really settle well with me, I understand its necessity. I always thought that the chase was half the fun. Why should this be any different? I am chasing my dreams, whatever those may be. I have not failed; failing is when I cease to pursue it as someone recently pointed out to me. And that, I think, is a good policy to have. We are always changing. That I welcome–although that change may neither be easy nor without pain. So here’s to always seeking. Whether that be a better self or otherwise.